where are the right words....?

I have always tried to help my kids understand how things can happen in the "real world". But sometimes I don't want to explain the "real world" stuff. I want my kids to be able to keep living in "kids world" where everything ends up ok and hurt feeling don't make them feel bad or sad.

Things aren't fair all of the time.

Things don't always turn out how we anticipate (or want).

People let us down sometimes, whether they try to or don't care or don't mean to.

People say hurtful things, whether they try to or don't care or don't mean to.

They have to learn to deal with all of these feelings and instances, I know, but it hurts me more than them, to hear them tell me about things that have happened.

I just want to wrap my arms them and keep them in the "kids world" and protect them from all of the nasty stuff that can be said and that can happen.

Where are the right words...?

I just try to instill in them to remember how they felt after whatever happened, happened and don't do that to anyone else. You don't want to be a person who makes someone else feel the way that you are feeling right now.

But I don't think that really is a help. I do believe that it is true but it doesn't help the pain to go away.

Learning to forgive and forget and to give some latitude for others to make mistakes, whether intentional or not, I think is best way to get past the pain and grow from it.

I hate that these lessons exist!